A three-month relationship ended after a disagreement over a proposed financial condition raised during a late-night video call.
In a post on the r/AITAH subreddit, a 30-year-old man wrote that his girlfriend said any future marriage would require a legally binding document obligating him to give her a percentage of his income — something he said he was unwilling to accept.
A New Requirement Introduced
The original poster wrote that the relationship was going well. The couple spent Christmas together, planned a trip to Canada, and discussed values and future plans.
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During a video call, his girlfriend revisited a written list of relationship non-negotiables and added the income agreement as a requirement for marriage.
Arguments And An Ultimatum
According to the post, the disagreement continued over several days, with his girlfriend sending messages explaining her position.
She cited her upbringing in a single-income household in the Philippines, her experience working as a paralegal and trauma from a previous relationship. She wrote that those experiences left her unwilling to rely on trust alone.
The OP said she would not compromise and told him that agreeing to the contract was required for the relationship to continue.
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The Breakup And Reddit’s Response
She accused him of trying to manipulate her into accepting less than what she wanted and said his refusal showed he did not care about her needs. She also said his response triggered memories from her prior relationship.
She maintained that the request was “totally reasonable” and said his unwillingness to agree was enough to end the relationship.
In an update, the OP added that she said she wanted to work less if married while continuing her remote paralegal work. She did not want children and did not want to make career compromises.
The comment section largely supported the OP. “Not the a**hole,”one commenter wrote. “I don’t think there is a lawyer alive who would advise you to sign that kind of pre-nuptial agreement. You don’t have to pay for her trauma.”
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Another added, “Three months and she wants you to sign away future income? Just no. That’s a financial life guarantee, not a partnership.”
Others echoed similar views. “Huge red flag,” one commenter wrote. “Glad she didn’t wait too long to chase you away.”
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