A man from New York said his wife won’t work, barely helps around the house, and spends most of her time playing video games. Meanwhile, he’s struggling to make ends meet on about $27,000 a year after child support. But when he called into “The Ramsey Show” for advice, the hosts didn’t just focus on her; they turned the spotlight on him.
He Wanted Help With His Wife, But Got A Reality Check
“I’ve been trying to talk to my wife about trying to help out around the house, getting a job,” Andy said. “But it seems like every time I bring it up, and how I need her to contribute to the family, she tells me that I’m starting when I’m honestly not.”
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Instead of immediately taking Andy’s side, the hosts pressed for more information. That’s when Andy revealed his wife actually attends nursing school, although some of her classes are remote. Co-host George Kamel called him out for leaving that out. “You left that part out,” he said. “I thought she was at home all day playing video games.”
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But the hosts weren’t buying the constant deflection. “All I’ve heard so far is: I had to. I have to. I had no choice. She made me,” Kamel said. “We need to control what we can control, and that’s the guy in the mirror.”
A Different Way Forward
Co-host John Delony offered a different strategy. He suggested Andy approach his wife’s weekly counseling session with humility and ask to attend, not to confront her, but to better understand what she’s going through. “I don’t feel like I’m doing a good job connecting with you and loving you in a way that you can feel it,” Delony suggested Andy say. “I’d love to come to one of your counseling sessions.”
He also pushed Andy to decide what his limits are. “You need to come up with an ‘or what’ statement,” he said. If he’s not leaving, then all his energy has to go toward finding a way to connect with his partner. Otherwise, he’s just fighting in circles.
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As the call wrapped, both hosts reminded Andy that it’s going to take serious change to fix his financial situation and his marriage. That includes getting honest about what he can do today, not what others have done to him.
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