A newly married couple recently posed a moral and financial dilemma on Reddit that sparked interesting responses: Is it wrong to use wedding donations intended for a house down payment to instead wipe out high-interest debt?
“We essentially told everyone that instead of a gift registry, we were looking for cash to go towards a down payment on our first home together,” wrote the original poster on the r/DaveRamsey subreddit. But in the time between the engagement and wedding, the couple’s financial mindset shifted.
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The husband noted he had already paid off $8,000 in credit card debt and was now only carrying a low-interest car loan. His wife had no car loan anymore but still held around $4,000 in credit card debt and a $5,000 personal loan, both with steep interest rates of up to 30%.
Their wedding gifts totaled an unexpected $8,000, which could almost eliminate her debt entirely. “We decided we will at a minimum, pay off her credit card before investing in a home,” he wrote, adding that paying down the debt would immediately free up cash and reduce financial strain.
Still, he questioned whether using the money for debt, instead of a down payment, would be misleading to the friends and family who gave it. “Would it be immoral to use it to knock out her debt?” he asked.
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Many Reddit users didn’t think so.
“By definition, money is fungible,” one person wrote, pointing out that all dollars are interchangeable, and using the cash for debt ultimately still supports the couple’s goal of homeownership.
Another commenter added, “You’re paying less towards the interest for your loans and you’re accelerating your ability to save up for the house. It’s the same thing as using the money directly for a house.”
Some See A Moral Gray Area
Not everyone agreed. A few commenters warned that if the couple had clearly stated the money was for a house, using it for anything else might feel like a bait-and-switch.
“If I gave you cash for a specific purpose, and you decided to use it for something else, then yes. I would absolutely have a problem with that,” one person wrote. Another said, “I think it may look like you solicited the money under false pretenses.”
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However, most seemed to view the decision as both financially smart and ethically sound as long as the couple remains focused and doesn’t fall back into bad spending habits.
“Eliminating 30% interest credit card debt frees up cash faster than any savings account ever could,” one top commenter noted.
Another summed it up simply: “Paying off your debt is helping you buy your house sooner, so nothing wrong with it.”
One practical suggestion? Don’t over-explain. A widely liked comment advised: “Just write your thank yous to say, ‘Thank you for coming to our wedding! It was wonderful to see you, and we appreciate your generous gift to help us start our married life together.’ Don’t lie, don’t embellish, just leave it vague.”
Ultimately, the decision appears to be less about morality and more about long-term impact.
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